Sunday, January 20, 2013

So, really....how are you????

Throughout my 29 years of life.....hmmmmm.....okay, maybe 30 years of life, I have been lucky enough to meet some AMAZING people.  I have met some of the strongest, most creative, giving people and yet one thing has been same for all of them.  They all have good days and bad days.  I wonder sometimes when I see people and they ask me how I am doing if they really want to know?  I mean, if I were to really stop and start talking about what was going on in my life, good or bad, would they really be interested or do they just want to hear the word "fine" and know they asked.  Over the past few weeks I have seen some people who I really care about need words of encouragement.  But sometimes I wonder if people know that these people need to hear those words?  Now, I am not pretending that I know about every person's life, and someone could even be thinking....you didn't encourage me when I needed it.  But, sometimes I wonder.

Social media has definitely changed the way relationships work.  I know some people who really only talk to me about FB statuses that I have posted.  I know some people who the only communication they have with me is through FB.  Texting has changed things too.  I know that is a big one for me.  I can be in mass chaos and think of something or want to tell someone something and I will just text it instead of calling.

Sometimes people need to know you are there for them.  Whether it be through FB or a text, they need to know you really care.

I saw this quote the other day and I really liked it....



I am at a really good point in my life.  I have a fabulous family, a great church home, a wonderful job, and some great friends.  But sometimes I wonder how good of friends are people now a days?  Do we
just ask how people are doing to be nice, do we just hit the like button so they will see we responded?

Sometimes people need to hear encouraging words, and unless we actually ask and LISTEN....we won't know they need us.  And in all honesty, sometimes when it comes to friends....words aren't needed.  Just knowing a friend is there can mean more than any spoken words.  I am so proud of the many friends I have who are amazing wives, mothers, and just wonderful people.  But, let's be honest, in today's craziness.......sometimes people need to actually be told they are those things.






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  1. UnknownJanuary 20, 2013 at 8:34 PM

    Aww, Sweet Darci, I just adore you. Thanks for being an encourager to me and listening to me. Thankful that God knew to bring us together!

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  2. KelleyJanuary 21, 2013 at 6:45 AM

    This so true Darci! As connected as we are with technology were are disconnected too. Life is too fast sometimes. We need to slow down and see what is truly important. You are such a sweetheart!

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    1. UnknownJanuary 21, 2013 at 7:27 AM

      Thanks, Kelley. We work so hard to make it look like we have it all together...and so often, we don't. :)

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  3. UnknownJanuary 21, 2013 at 7:22 PM

    It's hard to be vulnerable, especially in a world that values people who look perfect on the big screen, etc. I have to stop and remind myself from time to time that there are no perfect people and underneath we all struggle with something from time to time. I just started a Bible study by Jennifer Rothschild called Me, Myself, and Lies. She is beautiful and soooo talented but also blind. I'm only on the first lesson but the whole study is about cleaning out the "closet" of our mind - basically getting rid of self-talk that is damaging, such as "I'm so stupid... Why on earth did I ever do that???... How will I ever..." And so on. Even though I'm just on the first lesson, I realize that I really need this. She makes the point that we talk to ourselves in ways we would never talk to others and it's definitely true for me. So, yes, we need to encourage each other, we need to provide a safe place for sharing, listening, encouraging. But we also need to learn how to talk "Nice" to ourselves, I think. At least I know I do. Sorry this is so long. Miss chatting with you in the halls between classes :)

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