Thursday, June 30, 2011

If that was my child...I would NEVER....:)

Parenting is hard.  It is so much easier to watch!  :)  I was in Wal-Mart the other day with both girls and Autumn was pushing the cart.  A woman needed down the aisle, so I told Autumn to move the cart over...the woman smiled at me as though we were completely blocking her day.  Then when we were to the side she still didn't come through.  She proceeded to ask me if I wanted a trip to the ER....she didn't want to step on my childs toes....and said she was sure I didn't want that cost.  Now, here's the thing..she could have made it past me...she just wanted to make a comment.  I didn't say anything when I saw her grandchild climbing on the coke stack at the end of the aisle.

I can remember a time at the Purple Cow when Autumn was little and fussing!!!!  I gave her crackers, I held her, I did everything I could think of and nothing worked...so I took her to the car so she could calm down.  As we were coming back inside an old lady told me to try more crackers next time....WHAT??  I was trying to make it so everyone else in the restaurant could enjoy their meal and I get told what to do?

I know my parenting skills aren't perfect, but today at a garage sale Autumn was selling lemonade and without being told she called adults sir and ma'am and said please and thank you and told everyone to have a nice day. That made me PROUD!

In todays time I see so many kids disrespect their parents and parents saying "I just don't know what to do with them."  The answer....be a parent.  Teach right from wrong, teach your kids to be polite, respectful, and compassionate towards others.

It's so much easier to know how to discipline a child when it isn't your child.  I am amazed what some kids are allowed to say or how they act, but they aren't my kids and it's not my job to teach them that (unless they are in my classroom...then they are fair game (to some extent)).  :)  That however, doesn't mean I wouldn't like to teach them!

Now, please do not think my kids are perfect....I KNOW they aren't and I know I don't parent how others think I should.  I am sure I get onto them for things others think I shouldn't or don't get on to them for things others think I should.  However, I am trying to do my best and I hope my girls act the way they should when I am not around...that is true test of parenting.....how kids act when you aren't there!

Have a GREAT evening!!!

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Just a little thought......

Sometimes I look around and am just amazed at my life.  I look at my girls and wonder how did they become who they are?  Each of my girls have different personalities, yet are so similar.  Sometimes I don't give them as much credit as they deserve or I try get on to them for things that are silly.  But at the end of the day....I could not be prouder to be their mom.

I can't believe Mark and I have been married for 12 years....how did that happen?  That means I have been an adult for 12 years!!!  Incredible!!  The fact that he loves me still....even more awesome!

Today in church there was a segment on hurt and forgiving...getting past things.  It was really good and I know there are things in my life that have hurt me and I know that at times I have hurt others.  My assumption is that none of those hurts were truly intentional.  I don't believe people set out to hurt each other.  Now, I know that hurt happens.....and I know I am guilty of it, but it was never my intent to hurt someone.  Today in church people were encouraged to write their hurts down and put them in a fire....set them free.

It is amazing how we can get so caught up in things and not realize the wonderful things right in front of us.  I am so grateful for my friends and family and so proud to be apart of so many wonderful people's lives.  I can only hope to have as much of a positive impact on those I am around as those around me have on me.  (Does that make sense?)  :)

I encourage you, this week and every week, to give a compliment to someone you normally don't, say a prayer for someone, or even just let someone know how much they mean to you.  It honestly does make you feel better too!  Try to get rid of the hurt and focus on the things that make you smile.

Have a GREAT week!  :)

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Father's Day...not what it used to be...

I remember, as a kid, watching some of the old TV shows, like Leave It To Beaver, Father Knows Best, Ozzie and Harriet.  The role of Dad was not what it is today.  I just remember the dad coming home and giving his wife a kiss, then eating dinner.  I think he read the paper before or after dinner, but I know the kids weren't around unless there were discipline issues or they just needed to talk.



As I grew up I remember loving the Cosby Show.  I thought Bill Cosby ROCKED!!  He did some cooking, grocery shopping, disciplining, advice giving, and still laughed with his kids.  That show was GREAT!


In my "real life" my parents owned their own restaurant and so if one parent was working the other was home with us.  I can remember my mom going to church camp with a group of women for a few days and dad was home with my brother and I.  I can remember having sandwiches and spaghetti...that my dad baked and used ketchup in!  I remember really liking it!!!  I also remember my dad coached my t-ball teams and worked lots with me in the yard on catching pop flies!  (sometimes after dark when I could know longer see the ball....but that is another story!)  :)  I also remember my dad scaring my friends at my slumber party by sneaking out windows and tapping on windows and wearing masks at the front door!  It was so much fun!
My Dad, brother, and nephew

Now to my husband....people tell me all the time how lucky I am.  Mark helps get the girls ready for school, often packs their lunches, helps clean, helps cook, helps give the girls showers, helps get them to bed, plays with them, coaches their soccer teams, and is there for advice.  I know I am lucky....and I'm going to just bust this out...what I am lucky about is that I found the right person.  I found the person to marry who is an all-round Dad!  He gives me a kiss before he leaves for work and one when he gets home.  He reads the paper, loves it when I cook, and loves being at his kids events.  I don't know why people wouldn't want someone like this in their lives....in their kids lives.  I know this was a huge brag session....but being that it is Father's Day I believe my husband deserves a brag session.  I hope his dad is FABULOUS, all because he makes our lives FABULOUS!
Mark, the coach!

Mark...teaching the girls to fish!

Mark...just being an awesome dad!
Happy Father's Day to all the wonderful Dads out there!!

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Today.....

The day started off well.  I slept until around 8 and then fixed the girls cereal for breakfast.  (Yep...Mom of the year!!!)  Today is a big day...Autumn leaves for Florida with my mom today.  She is going to Disney World, Sea World, Universal (Harry Potter), and Cocoa Beach!  She will also be staying with my grandmother and grandfather while there.  So, needless to say Autumn is EXCITED!!!  My mom is taking each grandchild when they are 8 on this fun trip, so Allie still has a few years.  Allie, seemed to be craving attention today.

By the time my mom got here, the girls had squabbled and fussed for a while, then they both needed my mom's attention.

Allie has been going to a summer activity through her school this week, so we loaded up to take her and then I would be dropping mom and Autumn off at the airport.  When we got to the school Allie informed me she would walk in by herself, it is what the other big kids do.  WHAT??  Not walk her in?  Is she CRAZY???  So, I stopped just short of the door....and let her go in herself.  DEVASTATED!!!  I WAS DEVASTATED!!!

Then, when I snuck in to check on her....a friend/teacher came over and assured me she made it to her spot...that is when a very nice lady came over and asked me where I got my outfit.  Yea me!!!  :)  I told her Old Navy...she asked when I got it, I told her yesterday, then she said she would have to go get one. I was grinning ear to ear.  Then she pointed to her belly and showed me she was pregnant.  She said she would just have to go and get one!  WHAT???? DO I LOOK PREGNANT????  My mom assured me I don't, and that it is just a loose outfit so it would work well for a pregnant lady.  :(

On to the airport we go....we are about 20 minutes from the airport, but had to stop for Autumn to go to the bathroom...bless her bladder!  Where did we stop?  On the exit for the airport...she just couldn't make it!  We arrived at the airport...she got out and tried not to hug me!!  WHAT???  IS SHE CRAZY???  I then proceeded to take her picture and give her lots of hugs on behalf of her dad and I.

Then onto Wal-Mart where I bought lots of food to make me feel better and help fill out my new outfit!  :(

Tough day!!!  :)

Autumn and I at the airport....she was ready to go!!
Autumn on the plane...her text said...Help me mom!!!
I love this girl!!!

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Thank you......for strength.....

I know I blogged earlier today.....for those who read it...it was hard morning for me.  I woke up around 4 and couldn't go back to sleep.  I finally blogged.  Mark was at the gym when I woke up, when he got home I went for a run.  It felt so good.  I punched in my Couch to 5k program and took off.  I didn't follow it though...I just ran.  I listened to my music and just went.  I even cried a little.  But somehow it was JUST what I needed.

I came home, started laundry, read my Bible and went and sat outside for a while.  At 9 a.m. I crashed!!!  I could not keep my eyes open any longer!  I slept for 2 hours!!!  Yes, my girls were here too...they took care of each other, watched TV quietly, the only thing I did in that 2 hour period was put on Cheaper By the Dozen for Allie to watch.  I couldn't believe it!!!  My girls knew JUST what I needed.  I rewarded them by lunch from McDonalds!  They offered to let me sleep when I got home!  Sweet things!

This evening I taught at the gym.....it was hot and we worked hard and again, it was JUST what I needed.

Today I received various words of encouragement from friends and family.  It was JUST what I needed.

I am so thankful for many things right now.  Thank you for all of you who thought of me today, prayed for me today, wrote to me today, or anyone who did something for someone else today.  The next few weeks will be hard.  Death is difficult and watching it happen, well there are no words.  I know God will help me "keep swimming."  I know I received strength today from so many and for that I am soooo thankful.

THANK YOU!!!

Have a wonderful night!

Strength.....

Some people are just so strong.  My husband is SUPER strong.  He is one of those people who can lift/carry anything!!!  I am the one running behind him telling him to becareful, let me (ok...really someone other than me, but I offer to be polite) help!  I just don't want him to get hurt carrying super heavy things.  He amazes me!

Some people are strong spiritually.  These people amaze me as well!  Some people have a Bible verse for EVERYTHING.  Some people can give all their problems and issues to God and walk with calmness through it all.

Some people are strong emotionally.  They never cry, never break down, never seem to be losing it.

I wish I had more strength.  I would love to never have to ask for help taking a lid off a jar.  I wish I had a more spiritual answer for things when people ask why things happen and I wish I didn't cry or break down in dealing with issues as much as I do.  Now, I definitely don't think I am a weak person, and I definitely have moments of great strength.....it's just I wish I had more.  :)

Since January I have been working with a girl who is dying of cancer.  She is 17 and is close to the end of her journey.  I don't want to say that the cancer is beating her because that gives the cancer too much strength and she and her mother are some of the strongest people I know!!!  So, I will work on my spiritual strength and say that God is getting ready for her.  I visited with her last night and well, it's just hard.  Their are no other words to describe it.  Sitting and watching someone getting ready for their spot in heaven is a difficult task.  It is physically apparent to me now that the time is close.  She is unaware of how close it is, but her mother is not.  Her mom knows what is coming.  I am not going to lie...I did really well being over there and even when I came home.  But, at 5:20 a.m. this morning after various things have woken me up this morning (and I wish I was still sleeping) I don't have as much strength as I wish.  I wish I could make things better, I wish I had the right words, I wish I had the right prayers, I wish..........

I'm pretty sure I will need a nap today, I think I will go for a run this morning, I think I will read my Bible this morning, I think I will pray for strength today.

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Whose team are you on???

Since it is summer, I have been staying up late watching movies.  So far I have watched Twilight and New Moon.  Eclipse will be next...but not tonight, I am too tired and my girls have not mastered the art of sleeping in yet.

I loved the Twilight series!!!  I could NOT put the books down!  While reading the books I was completely Team Edward!!!  I mean....in the book New Moon, I basically skipped all the chapters without Edward in them!!!  I'm not going to lie...while reading the books...I was Bella and I was hopelessly in love with Edward.

Then, the movies came out.  Now in theory I am still Team Edward...but Team Jacob looks pretty good!  :)  It has been fun re-watching the movies.  Mark has been a good sport and watched them with me.  We talk about how silly girls are about boys and things boys do to make girls so silly.  It has been fun!!






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The first 4 days of summer vacation have been AWESOME!!  We have swam daily and had great family time!!

Allie has made some major accomplishments in the pool already!  She is now swimming (without floaties or a ring) in the deep end of the pool.  She has started jumping off the diving board and ate cake batter tonight!!!!  All things that I am super excited about!


Autumn is already a little fish and is working on diving...she is doing AWESOME!


We also went and saw Judy Moody this weekend.  Ummmm...not my favorite, but the girls really liked it!

I can't wait to see how fun the rest of summer is for us!!!!  I hope you had a GREAT weekend!!!

Whose team are you on???

Since it is summer, I have been staying up late watching movies.  So far I have watched Twilight and New Moon.  Eclipse will be next...but not tonight, I am too tired and my girls have not mastered the art of sleeping in yet.

I loved the Twilight series!!!  I could NOT put the books down!  While reading the books I was completely Team Edward!!!  I mean....in the book New Moon, I basically skipped all the chapters without Edward in them!!!  I'm not going to lie...while reading the books...I was Bella and I was hopelessly in love with Edward.

Then, the movies came out.  Now in theory I am still Team Edward...but Team Jacob looks pretty good!  :)  It has been fun re-watching the movies.  Mark has been a good sport and watched them with me.  We talk about how silly girls are about boys and things boys do to make girls so silly.  It has been fun!!






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The first 4 days of summer vacation have been AWESOME!!  We have swam daily and had great family time!!

Allie has made some major accomplishments in the pool already!  She is now swimming (without floaties or a ring) in the deep end of the pool.  She has started jumping off the diving board and ate cake batter tonight!!!!  All things that I am super excited about!


Autumn is already a little fish and is working on diving...she is doing AWESOME!


We also went and saw Judy Moody this weekend.  Ummmm...not my favorite, but the girls really liked it!

I can't wait to see how fun the rest of summer is for us!!!!  I hope you had a GREAT weekend!!!

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

End of a school year....

I LOVE my job!!!  I also love summer and I am lucky with my job that I get to have my summers off!!!

The end of the school year is such an exciting time.  I time of anticipation and exhaustion.  My girls had a GREAT year!  They were blessed with wonderful teachers and did GREAT in school.  Autumn has now finished the 3rd grade and received 5 awards at her awards assembly.  She received a variety of awards, but I am very proud of her citizenship award.  I am glad that (for the most part) she knows how to behave properly!  :)
Yea Autumn!!!!


Allie has now finished kindergarten and she received 7 awards at her assembly.  She received an Excellence Award in her class and a good conduct award!!  This is SUPER exciting for me because I was really worried about starting Allie in kindergarten this year because she is younger and I did NOT want to mess her up academically.  In fact, one of the compliments she received at her pre-school was that she was "good with scissors."  I wasn't sure how that would transfer over to kindergarten!  :) Allie even performed in her schools talent show with her friend and they were FABULOUS!!!
Yea Allie!!!


The end of the year also brings people leaving.  A few of my friends/co-workers will be leaving this year.  Between retirement and job changes today was a day of goodbyes.  I know we will keep in touch, but it won't be the same knowing they are not in the building with me!

However, summer is here....and Phineas and Ferb came on and said..."There's a hundred and four days of summer vacation...." don't really think I have that many, but I will gladly take these days!!!  I am looking forward to pool days, catching fire flies, and just being with my girls!!!

Sunday, June 5, 2011

12 years and counting.....:)

June 5, 1999....the day I got married!  It was a great day!  Chaotic...but GREAT!  I had worked pretty hard to "get" Mark.  (Okay....a better word is STALKED)  :)  I was so excited I hardly slept at all the night before.  I tossed and turned all night!  Then morning came and I was excited!!!

Our wedding definitely had it's craziness though!  I went to get my hair fixed and the beautician had forgotten!!!  She was a little late!!!  Then one of our groomsmen had a seizure, so he had to be taken to the hospital!!! We prepared for a "stand-in groomsmen, but he made it!!!  My mom had a flat tire and I actually found out today (yes, 12 years later) that the air conditioning had gone out in one of the rooms for our reception!!!  CRAZY!!!
Mark and I...12 years later!  :)


Yet, what I remember is Mark.  I remember seeing him at the front of the church.  I remember dancing to Truly Madly Deeply by Savage Garden as our first dance (not sure it was as slow as I had thought it was going to be).  I remember so many people being there with us on our special day. I remember being so happy and feeling so loved!

I love to watch the movie "Father of the Bride."  I am always amazed at how Steve Martin misses so much of his daughters wedding...yet, in talking to my mom, she missed a lot of the things at my reception.  Sorry mom!!  :)
Love this movie!!!


My wedding was perfect.  My marriage is GREAT!  In a day when it seem so many marriages struggle I am so blessed to have such a great one!  I am so glad I have such a wonderful man to share the rest of my life with!!